I have read and replied to a lot of posts here, however none have touched me as much as your's did today. As I read, the tears streamed down my face. I wish I could be there to hold you, comfort you in your time of need. Instead, it is you who are comforting me - and I'm sure many others.
You are truly a gift, bestowed upon the people of this site. To be faced with such challenges at a young age, yet still seek to uplift others. You are absolutely amazing.
In light of the changes you still face, I am reminded of something my son recently told me. Death is not about letting go of one life, rather, it is grasping on to another. We know this life is not our final destination, it is merely a temporary pause in the grand scheme of things.
I believe we are here to learn from one another and to teach eachother what we have learned. You, my friend, are wise beyond your years. While I know you must feel cheated for having to leave so soon, think of all the lives you have touched, the lives you have enriched by your very presence. There are few people who can accomplish so much, in so little time.
Your life is transitioning to another phase - much like learning to walk, ride a bike, or drive a car. You have more than earned your right to move on to something better. Life without physical or emotional pain,without physical needs, or material attachments. While the physical transition may be scary, there is also love and peace waiting for you. An all encompassing love that fulfills your every need. While you are here, we will carry you in our thoughts and prayers. When you are ready to move on, HE will carry you home in HIS arms.
This is very true and the reason why admin keeps the site clear of such problems. I know we all appreciate all the information that you have given and if you ever need to just vent, feel free.
Everyone is having a tough time right now. When you have a family member that is ill I think that only makes the situation 100x harder. I wish I had the answers and the money to help everyone.
I found this new software that teaches kids how to deal with bullies. I haven't tried it yet. But thought I would post it anyway. I figure any help in this department is better than nothing at all.
We all make mistakes. Things happen that are out of our control. Just know you are better equipped the next time around. This is NOT the end of the world, ok? Any loans you take out do NOT have to be repaid until 6 months after you graduate.If you are in school, the loans do not have to be paid - just make sure you do not have to make interest payments while you are attending.
Did the school tell you they were accredited? If they did and you found out otherwise - you might want to report them to the department of education. If the school falsified information in any way, turn them in.
Ok whats the worst that could happen if you tell your family?
Let's say they want you to come home. Is there any particular reason to stay in Florida? Or would it be possible for you to attend classes while you are living with your parents and just commute to classes? You could even get a part time or full time job near home and save some money. IF you do that, you could get a job at a local hospital which might even subsidize your education and save you a ton of money as well!
Let go of your pride. Call you parents and talk to them. Sometimes being responsible is knowing when to let others step in and help.
in response to Bonitamujer...They just passed? Give yourself time. Cry all you want or need to. But also try to remember your friend in the good times too. Get together with mutual friends -they are going through the same thing and right now, you need each other for support.
The best place to go would be the SBA - small business administration - they should be able to point you in the right direction regarding starting your own business..
I agree with Ekika on this one... time is up , little man has to go! At 23 he is an adult. You said his mom gave him a year and he kept hurting himself. well it sounds to me as though he is playing on everyone's sympathy. Tell him it is time to go and give him a FIRM DATE to get out. He is no longer legally your responsibility - as if he ever was. If he is not out by that date, his stuff will be on the front lawn.. Stop coddling him and get him on the road to adulthood! Otherwise he will be 45 and still on your couch! Get him out now. He will learn to survive pretty darn quick. Its sink or swim time - trust me, he can swim.
Oh hon, we know what you are going through. We have all been there and we know you are struggling. It is so hard sometimes. Sometimes, you just need a good cry to get out all your frustration and anger! And sometimes you need a great big hug. Someone to wrap their arms around yopu and tell you everything is going to be ok. I wish I could be there next to you, wrap my arms around you and do that for you. Just put your head on my shoulder and let it all out.....We can cry together until all the tears are gone, and then we can cry some more.
Tonight, I want you to do just that. Cry it all out, get a good night's sleep, then tomorrow, I have some places I want you to check, then monday give them a call, ok?
SANTA FE SPRINGS, Calif. – Fruiti Pops, Inc. of Santa Fe Springs has recalled its mamey (mah-MAY') frozen fruit bars because of a possible link to a rare U.S. outbreak of typhoid fever.
The company said Thursday that the fruit bars were distributed in California, Arizona and Texas since May 2009.
Fruiti Pops says retail stores, ice cream trucks and vending machines sold the frozen fruit bars, which have the UPC number 763734000097.
The company says the frozen fruit bars were made from contaminated mamey pulp that Goya Foods, Inc. voluntarily recalled on Aug. 12, after it was linked to a typhoid fever outbreak in California and Nevada. So far no illnesses have been reported from the mamey fruit bars.
Mamey or zapote (zah-POH'-teh), is a fruit popular in Latin America and the Carribean.
I don't know of a more dysfunctional environment than here in the US right now. The majority of the population is dealing with this financial crisis and no one is getting any relief. Charities and government agencies are receiving more funding and serving fewer people. No one seems to know how to answer this situation other than to house the poor in prisons????
While the President's healthcare plan may offer some relief, the majority of those waiting to be served will be waiting YEARS.
Maybe we do need a more socialist or communistic view on the situation - I don't know. All I know is that the current situation is NOT working and rather than getting better it only seems to get worse. However, the one thing I have noticed is that I hear very little about it on the news any more. All I see now are the after effects - the increased crime rate...
in response to oldman...Sometimes FAFSA pays for certification in some trades - or state funding may - however the best thing you can do to find out is check with your unemployment office or school district they would know best.
in response to beauport01930...Did you ask your doctor for samples? They usually have some on hand for situations like yours. Also check with this site - they may be able to help
in response to nini3...It sounds to me as thought you still have a nasty virus going on there... I suggest using CCleaner and defraggler - both free - I have used both for @ a year now and no problems ever!
This is a complicated issue that should be discussed with someone who has extensive knowledge of the legal aspects of your situation. You do have options, but with every option there are obligations on your part. If you have a law guardian, they may be another one to speak to about this. Unfortunately there are no easy answers to your question.
Coalition formed to show support for Islamic center near New York's ground zero
Proposed construction of center has stirred debate nationwide
One 9/11 family member calls support for it "living up to America's core values"
Another 9/11 family member says center is "nothing short of a provocation"
New York (CNN) -- A coalition of at least 40 religious and civic organizations Wednesday announced the creation of an alliance to show support for the Islamic community center and mosque proposed to be built near New York's ground zero.
The group has launched a website -- nyneighbors.org -- and announced a candlelight vigil to be held at the site of the proposed center on the eve of the ninth anniversary of the September 11, 2001, attack.
Members of the coalition gathered at a municipal building in Manhattan to announce the group's creation.
Talat Hamdani, whose son was killed in the attack, told CNN on Wednesday, "The issue is not about location. It is about our rights as Americans."
"All those people who died that day ... they were murdered for being Americans. We should honor those people who were murdered that day by living up to America's core values," Hamdani said.
Even as some relatives of 9/11 victims showed support for the Islamic center's construction, others held their ground in opposing it.
"This is nothing short of a provocation, an insult to the families of people who were murdered, whose bodies were scattered all across that site," said Debra Burlingame, the sister of the pilot whose hijacked plane crashed into the Pentagon. She sits on the World Trade Center Memorial and Museum board of directors.
"I've had families who have told us their PTSD has come back because of the idea of a mosque being built over where their loved ones died," she told CNN this week. "The idea of a mosque is horrific to them."
She said Imam Abdul Rauf, who is behind the project, did not approach families of 9/11 victims, but she would welcome any discussion with him.
"I would have told him, if he had come to us, that it would hurt people," she said. "This is hurting people who have already been deeply hurt."
Rauf's wife, Daisy Khan, executive director of the American Society for Muslim Advancement, told the Council on Foreign Relations on Wednesday the proximity to ground zero was never planned. "We were establishing the center in a neighborhood we were already in," she said. "It was our neighborhood. Nine-eleven was our tragedy as much as it was anyone else's tragedy."
Khan said the voices of moderate, mainstream Muslims are being drowned out by extremists. "The center will combine the best of what it is to be Muslim and what it is to be American. ... The core values of both are totally compatible."
On Tuesday, New York Gov. David Paterson met with Archbishop Timothy M. Dolan, who had offered to mediate in the situation. After the meeting, Dolan urged advocates on both sides of the issue to ratchet down their rhetoric.
At an Iftar dinner marking the breaking of the Ramadan fast Tuesday evening, New York Mayor Michael Bloomberg forcefully affirmed his support for the project.
"We are Americans, each with an equal right to worship and pray where we choose. There is nowhere in the five boroughs of New York City that is off limit to any religion," he told an audience at Gracie Mansion that included the center's developer, Sharif el-Gamal.
The Islamic center's leaders say plans for the $100 million facility call for a community center including a mosque, performing arts center, gym, swimming pool and other public spaces.
It will be built on property the center already owns, two blocks from where the World Trade Center was destroyed by Islamic extremists on September 11, 2001. The attacks killed more than 2,700 people.
CNN's Mark Norman and Ashley Fantz contributed to this report.
At 20y/o with 2 kids, she doesn't have much going on. She is confused and far too young to understand what she is doing both to you and those children. She has no sense of stability what so ever.
However, if the child is yours, biologically,then you have rights as well. But with those rights come obilgations (visitation/child support) This is not something youtake lightly either. Granted she is not thinking in these terms right now, but before long she will - especially in terms of the child support. Get it all in writing and get a DNA test before you do anything. And seek the advice of an attorney who specializes in FATHER'S RIGHTS.
If she is 20 and you are 36 , that is a 16 year gap in your ages. Not to point out the obvious, but what do either of you have in common? You may want to protect her and those children while she wants to go out clubbing.... Be realistic about your relationship. She will probably come running back to you time after time when things get rough in the real world and she needs a shoulder to cry on or someone to take care of the kids. But are you sure you are more to her than just a father figure? Think about it. You are ready to settle down and she is still out playing around.... take this time to truly evaluate your relationship before you accept her once and for all, baggage and all.
NEW YORK (AP/WBEN) -- Republican candidate for governor Carl Paladino said he would transform some New York prisons into dormitories for welfare recipients, where they could work in state-sponsored jobs, get employment training and take lessons in "personal hygiene."
Paladino, a wealthy Buffalo real estate developer popular with many tea party activists, isn't saying the state should jail poor people: The program would be voluntary.
But the suggestion that poor families would be better off in remote institutions, rather than among friends and family in their own neighborhoods, struck some anti-poverty activists as insulting.
Paladino is competing for the Republican nomination with former U.S. Rep. Rick Lazio. The primary is Sept. 14.
Paladino first described the idea in June at a meeting of The Journal News of White Plains and spoke about it again this week with The Associated Press.
Throughout his campaign, Paladino has criticized New York's rich menu of social service benefits, which he says encourages illegal immigrants and needy people to live in the state. He has promised a 20 percent reduction in the state budget and a 10 percent income tax cut if elected.
Asked at the meeting how he would achieve those savings, Paladino laid out several plans that included converting underused state prisons into centers that would house welfare recipients. There, they would do work for the state - "military service, in some cases park service, in other cases public works service," he said - while prison guards would be retrained to work as counselors.
"Instead of handing out the welfare checks, we'll teach people how to earn their check. We'll teach them personal hygiene ... the personal things they don't get when they come from dysfunctional homes," Paladino said.
New York, like other states, receives a federal block grant to provide cash and other forms of welfare to very low-income residents. Federal law already requires welfare recipients to do some form of work to receive benefits.
New York's welfare rolls have grown slightly during the recession, while food stamp eligibility has almost doubled, according to the state.
Paladino told The Associated Press the dormitory living would be voluntary, not mandatory, and would give welfare recipients an opportunity to take public, state-sponsored jobs far from home.
"These are beautiful properties with basketball courts, bathroom facilities, toilet facilities. Many young people would love to get the hell out of cities," Paladino he said.
He also defended his hygiene remarks, saying he had trained inner-city troops in the Army and knows their needs.
"You have to teach them basic things - taking care of themselves, physical fitness. In their dysfunctional environment, they never learned these things," he said.
Ketny Jean-Francois, a former welfare recipient and a New York City advocate for low-income people, said Paladino's idea shocked her.
"Being poor is not a crime," she said. "People are on welfare for many reasons ... Is he saying people are poor because they don't have any hygiene or any skills?"
A Lazio spokesman didn't immediately return a message.
Paladino said he based his ideas on the Civilian Conservation Corps, a federal program that paid young unemployed men during the Great Depression to plant trees, build roads and develop parks.
Paladino said he would open the program both to long-term welfare recipients and to people who had lost their jobs during the recession. He said that he didn't know how he would pay for it but that prisons could be consolidated to make room.
Amnesty International has urged the Saudi Arabian authorities not to deliberately paralyse a man in retribution for similar injuries he allegedly caused during a fight.
Reports say a court in Tabuk, in the north-west of the country, had approached a number of hospitals about the possibility of cutting the man's spinal cord to carry out the punishment of qisas (retribution), as requested by the injured victim.
"We urge the Saudi Arabian authorities not to carry out such a punishment, which amounts to nothing less than torture. While those guilty of a crime should be held accountable, intentionally paralysing a man in this way would constitute torture, and be a breach of its international human rights obligations," said Hassiba Hadj Sahraoui, acting director of the Middle East and North Africa Programme.
According to one report, one hospital said it would be possible to medically administer the injury at the same place on the spinal cord as the damage the man is alleged to have caused his victim using a cleaver, during a fight more than two years ago, causing similar paralysis.
The court may decide not to impose the paralysis punishment and could instead sentence the man to imprisonment, financial compensation, or flogging.
The man, whose name has not been made public, has already been sentenced to seven months imprisonment for the offence. Amnesty International has received information that he was convicted and sentenced following a trial where he was said to have had no legal assistance.
Under international human rights law, the use of this sentence would constitute a violation of the absolute prohibition of torture and other cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment.
It would contravene the UN Convention against Torture to which Saudi Arabia is a state party and the Principles of Medical Ethics adopted by the UN General Assembly.
Saudi Arabia regularly sentences people to various forms of corporal punishment.
Flogging is mandatory in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia for a number of offences and can also be used at the discretion of judges as an alternative or in addition to other punishments.
In cases of qisas (retribution) other sentences passed have included eye-gouging, tooth extraction, and death in cases involving murder.
According to the Principles of Medical Ethics adopted by the UN General Assembly, it is a gross contravention of medical ethics, as well as a breach of applicable international instruments, for health personnel, particularly physicians, to engage, actively or passively, in acts which constitute participation in, complicity in, incitement to or attempts to commit torture or other cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment.
I will be married 20 years in February. I have spent 15 years of those alone. I have seen mainly the bad part of both sides. Marriage is like any other relationship. It takes committment, communication, and trust - each party has to come to the table with 100%. If you expect someone to "complete you" then you are not ready for a relationship. You have to be whole within yourself in order to fulfill your obligations as a part of that relationship.
There is no prince charming coming to rescue anyone. That is a fairy tale that has warped the minds of women everywhere. It teaches us to be dependent on a man - usually men that are unreliable and in need of help themselves. This same fairy tale teaches women that we are the "weaker" sex and we NEED to be reliant on a man. I have seen far too many single mothers supporting families because the man was to weak to handle his responsibilities to think that women are weak in any way.
This same weakness is still seen in women who manipulate and destroy good men. Men who then refuse to trust another woman regardless of how well she treats him. Too many people have been destroyed by past relationships. You need to move past what has happened to you and open yourself up to the possibilities in the future. Not everyone is like your former spouse - regardless of what you have been taught to believe.
We need to set a better example for our children. Teach them to communicate and exceed their expectations. Let them know there will be disapointments in life BUT they are capable of overcoming them. No one should have to settle for what they believe to be their lot in life - there is always room for improvement. Stop coddling children and teach them to be more self reliant. Then end result will be more productive adults with better relationship skills.
Free Money Many people arrive at GovBenefits.gov after seeing advertisements that might leave them thinking the government will give “free money” to anyone for anything. The government will not give ...see full post
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